Everyone Has Their Own Social Goals
This is a super short one.
There's a lot of writing on this site and it won't all apply to everyone. Each person who reads this site will have their own social goals, and should pick and choose the advice from here that will help achieve them. One person may read a particular article and feel it will be a key part of solving their problems. Someone else may find the same piece totally irrelevant to them, or even disagree with it.
Some general goals people may have are:
- They feel socially awkward on the whole and want to improve their social skills all around.
- They feel their social skills are fairly good, but could use some advice on a few areas.
- They want to become more sociable and outgoing.
- They want to feel less shy, inhibited, and anxious around other people.
- They're not really concerned with social skills. They want to be able to do their own thing and not have other people bother them for it. Their 'problem' is that they don't match up with the norm.
- A mix of the above, such as someone who realizes they need to polish some of their interpersonal skills, but also wants to be able to do their own thing as much as possible.
Two people may also have very different values behind their goals. One person may want to change and try to become more of a social butterfly, and see this as a good thing. Someone else may be starting at the same place, but want to stay as they are, and find the idea of becoming more sociable pointless or distasteful. One person may want to fit in more so they can hang out with 'regular' people more, while someone else would consider that going against their nature and selling out for approval.
I think what's important is for everyone to do what they think will make them happiest, and not impose their own viewpoint on other people.
