Social Skills Coaching

I'm taking new clients. To get started email me at with a brief overview of what issues you'd like help with, and any questions you might have.

Or keep reading for more details...

You could be a good fit for one-on-one social coaching if any of the following describe you:

More importantly...

What if all those problems were finally behind you? When you walk into a party or meetup you feel relaxed, and look forward to the new people you'll meet. If you see someone you want to talk to you feel calmly certain you can keep a conversation with them going, and that you'll be able to cover lots of interesting ground. You've got a good group of friends, and know that if everyone moved away you'd be able to meet some new ones soon enough. If you make a minor gaffe you're able to brush it off - You know everyone makes the odd mistake, but overall you're a likable person with solid social skills. You know no one's perfect, but you accept yourself.

Benefits of coaching

One-on-one coaching can help you get past the social problems that are too difficult to fix on your own. It's also good for issues you know you could eventually solve by yourself, but you want to make faster progress. Coaching provides:

About me

Here's why I can help:

Interested in moving forward?

I'm taking new clients. If you'd like to work with me, or just want more info, send me an email at with a quick overview of what issues you'd like help with, along with any questions you have.

Practical details

  • Sessions are $100 an hour
  • Appointments take place over video chat, using a platform that's more secure than free apps like Skype and Facetime
  • I'm available Monday - Friday from 11am to 6pm, Eastern Standard Time
  • I work with adults who are 18 and older (if you're a parent looking for help for your under-18 teenager check out this article)

Common questions

I wish I had a more satisfying answer to give, but it depends. Some issues can be more-or-less resolved in a session or two. Some clients just have a handful of topics they want advice on, and once their questions are answered they're good to go. Other deep-rooted social problems can take months, or even years, to fully address. Sometimes a client has an issue they think will take a while to deal with, but it can be cleared up faster than they expected. At other times a seemingly simple problem turns out to be more complicated.

Overall though, if you have a years-long pattern of social anxiety and insecurities, that's not something that can be instantly fixed by a quick pep talk. You've got to put in the work to face your fears and slowly break down your old thinking patterns. That said, you don't necessarily have to be a coaching client every step of the way. With social anxiety around 8-12 sessions is enough to learn the core concepts to keep making progress on your own.

The other thing is that coaching doesn't have to be an all-or-nothing choice between not doing it at all or signing on for years. If I'm doing my job then you'll get something out of every session. Even if you only choose to work with me for a handful of appointments, you'll still be better off than you were before, even if you haven't 100% cured every last concern you have.

Again, it depends on what you need help with. The first session or two will focus on getting a complete picture of your problems and goals, as well as your background and overall circumstances. If your situation is more simple and straightforward we can sometimes start addressing your issues in the first session. After that we'll meet every week or two as you work toward your goals. Sessions can involve a mix of:

  • Coming up with ways to handle upcoming social situations you're nervous about
  • Breaking down the social interactions you were in since we last talked
  • Teaching you new social skills or helping you tweak the ones you have
  • Teaching you ways to manage your anxiety
  • Helping you understand and handle the unhelpful thought and behavior patterns that can drive your social problems and insecurities
  • Roleplaying social scenarios that are tricky for you, so you can practice and get comfortable with them
  • Helping you stay motivated
  • Identifying all the little ways you might be getting off track, that you're not even aware of
  • Giving you space to talk about and work through the things that have been on your mind lately

Once more, it depends on where you live. I'm in Ontario, Canada. If you're from Ontario, or the rest of Canada, and have an insurance plan that reimburses you for sessions with a Registered Social Worker, then I'm likely to be covered. Check with your provider ahead of time, of course.

I'm not in network with any of the insurance companies in the United States. There's a chance your plan may cover me as an out-of-network provider. Again, get in touch with them and see.

Again, if you're interested in working with me, write me at with a quick overview of what issues you'd like help with, along with any questions you have. I look forward to hearing from you.